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I want you to trust yourself and find emotional freedom. Through our work we will unpick negative self-talk and behaviours that stop you from connecting to yourself and your needs. We will work on finding gratitude, calm and balance in order to move you from overwhelm to ownership of your life.

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Motherhood is a unique experience but one that we have to work hard to own. Popular culture, anecdotes and the systems we operate within have prescribed what it is to be a mother. It is this that creates the guilt, the pressure and the overwhelm so often felt in motherhood. Not you.

Let's break you free from these so you truly embrace YOU in motherhood and find your own path.

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A 1:1 Coaching & Mentoring Experience for mothers ready to get back to themselves

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A 1:1 Coaching & Mentoring Experience helping mothers navigate what work means to them

An empowering 2 month coaching experience focused on navigating work and motherhood on your terms rather than with guilt. Let's take the fear out of work and the juggle and instead help you find a way to work that doesn't mean sacrificing what you want from motherhood.

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A powerful one off coaching experience for mothers that will give you the space to unlock clarity when you are feeling unsure. Together we will move you from being stuck to stepping towards what you really want and need, beyond being a mother.

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@EMILYGOLDHILL

It is too easy to become all consumed by your kids.

I know because I definitely have and see it time and time again with mothers.

Life becomes about the kids and their needs alone. Along the way you disconnect from what it is YOU need but tell yourself it doesn’t matter so long as the kids are prioritised.

In doing that, you’re not actually prioritising them because you are not looking after yourself and allowing your cup to be filled.

This risks reduced patience, bigger moments of maternal rage, more dissatisfaction, building resentment towards partner…. The list goes on.

Motherhood is hard and complex and full of emotions so if there was ever a time to focus on yourself it is when you feel deep in it.

Like the idea of this but don’t even know where to begin? Then I can help. DM and let’s chat with no obligations and no fees 💕

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#rewritingparenthood #rewritingmotherhood #coachingformums #putyourselffirst #motherhoodpriorities #motherhoodmindset #parentingmindset

No matter how busy or hectic the day feels there is always a window of five minutes that you can claim for yourself.

The trick is, actually giving yourself permission to take it.

If it feels hard, tie it into what you’re already doing.

For me I know I need a cold coffee in the morning at the moment. So I take it outside and sit with the sun on my face for five minutes while enjoying it, rather than rushing back to my to do list.

It is only five minutes but it is a little act of self care that over time adds up to more.

The headspace to tackle the do list.
The patience to handle overly stimulated kids.
The confidence that you have this.

Five minutes can actually give you a lot.

What will you do for yourself today?

#rewritingparenthood #rewritingmotherhood #mindset #mentalfitness #coachingformums #restforamoment #fiveminutes

Let's be honest, it isn't maternity leave.

🚪 Leave implies they've actually left the business but new parents haven't.

🚪 Leave allows new parents to be forgotten about, removed from internal processes and decisions but they are still a part of your team and your culture.

🚪 Leave implies no need to be considered so why bother thinking hard about their return.

We need to stop calling it maternity leave and instead focus on the actual experience both before, throughout and on return.

Organisations have a big responsibility but so do you as a new parent - to make sure you are looking after yourself. Your needs will have shifted and so will your views and relationship with work.

It takes time to know this and that is why i support returning mothers on their journey back into work (or not).

It's not maternity leave.
It's a period of discovery and knowing how to unpick that alone can be hard... but it doesn't have to be.

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Hi, I'm Emily. A mindset coach who works with women navigating the impact of motherhood on their lives, work and identities. Drop me a DM to see how we can work together today.

#rewritingparenthood #rewritingmotherhood #maternityleave #parentalleave #workingmumsuk #returntoworkmums

Do you ever feel like you just don’t have enough time?

Do you hunt the allusive work / life balance?

I hate to break it to you, but stop!
It’s a myth we’ve been sold.

Too often what motherhood (and womanhood) should look like is forced upon us by external sources. Popular culture, societal norms, generational expectations - these aren’t ours but they are stories and narratives we absorb and that shape our thinking.

The notion that we can have a work/life balance, especially as a working parent is one of those that just really grinds my gears. It suggests predictability. It suggests constant means (time, resources, finances). But life and parenthood will always throw you curve balls.

So what should we be focused on instead?
💫 How to find joy in the juggle
🔐 Unlocking small moments for yourself within the inevitable mundane
🎵 Finding work / life harmony, rather than balance

Read about what I mean over at @careeringintomotherhood

Link in bio.

(Apologies for the typo - meant illusive, not allusive 🤦‍♀️)

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#rewritingmotherhood #rewritingparenthood #motherhoodrewrite #worklifeharmony #worklifebalanceisamyth #joyinthejuggle

Hi, I’m Emily, a parenthood coach. I work with women to rewrite their parenthood & work experience. Pop me a message to see how I can help.

I’m back!

I’ve been very absent on here. Not because anything has been wrong but because sometimes you need to slow down, take stock and reassess out of sight.

This is particularly true as a parent. You carry so many other people’s needs and emotions that sometimes disappearing for a bit to connect back to yourself and your needs is essential.

There has been fear…
❔Am I not showing up enough
❔Will I miss out on potential clients
❔Is this a sign I’m not cut out for this work

But I know that I’ve given myself the grace and respect I encourage my clients to gift themselves.

So watch this space as I’ll be easing back into things online with something very exciting coming next week…

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Hi, I’m Emily. A mindset coach working with women navigating parenthood, work and life so they can find themselves and joy in the juggle.

#rewritingparenthood #rewritingmotherhood #mentalfitness #mindsetcoach #parenthoodunlocked #motherhoodandme

I get asked these questions so figured it was time to give them some space on the grid.

Have a look and let me know if you think I've missed anything that's important to know!

And if you think I've covered it all, it sounds good and you want to chat you know where I am. Together we can make your motherhood journey one that brings you joy - not just because of the kids!

Emily xx

Also shout out to @samgradyphotography for one of a bunch of beautiful photos - I am excited to start getting them out in the world.

#rewritingmotherhood #rewritingparenthood #whatdoido #allaboutme #lifecoachformums #lifecoachingformums #mindsetcoachingformums #mindsetcoachformums #motherhoodunlocked #motheryourway

In case you needed to hear this today…

It can feel like it’s often all on you in motherhood which is unsurprising given the systems and structures we are forced to operate within.

But the thing is it is these that are the problem, not you!

So when you catch yourself starting to talk yourself down or wonder why you can't do more remember this and ask yourself, what you can control and how you respond to that.

#rewritingthenarrative #rewritingparenthood #rewritingmotherhood #itsnotyou #motherhoodtruths #motherhoodcoach #motherhoodmindset

This isn’t specific to motherhood but we definitely need this as mothers.

The endless to do lists
The constant whurr of the brain
The never ending demands on you
The poor sleep
The feeling of no time

It’s little wonder those negative voices creep in and start to bring us down and make us question ourselves.

There is an easy, free and effective way to stop those voices in their tracks.

Fresh air and movement.

Sounds simple, because it is.

Never trust a negative thought until you’ve felt the weather on your skin and moved your body. It doesn’t have to be much. A walk with a podcast, a gentle jog to the shops, a swim in the sea, a dance with your kids. It doesn’t matter. Just feel yourself in your body.

What little movement will you do today?

#rewritingparenthood #rewritingmotherhood #mindsetshift #mentalfitness #coachingforwomen #bodyfulness #mindfulness #smallwinsmatter

Balance in life is bullshit.

It’s not going to happen. It’s a myth we’ve been sold and something our culture idealises. Life isn’t predictable, something that can always be planned for.

The idea of balance scares me. Who wants to be constantly walking a thin tightrope while juggling and spinning multiple plates? Not me.

Instead, let’s stop chasing after it and instead focus on finding joy in the juggle so we can be more resilient, more flexible and more at ease with the lives we’re in.

With that comes better knowing our seasons. How our emotions and bodies ebb and flow. And how to crave out pockets of time, even if small, just for us.

Here’s to unlocking the joy in juggle.

#rewritingparenthood #rewritingmotherhood #themotherhoodrewrite #motherhoodunlocked #joyinthejuggle #notobalance

A non negotiable since having kids is getting a night away by myself every year. This week I had my first once since having my youngest. Breast feeding and other factors meant I haven’t made a night away for the last two years and that’s okay. But it also meant this night was much needed.

I am not very good at slowing down. I like to do. As mothers we have endless lists circulating in our minds that never get completed but always give us something to do.

So I set myself a challenge to actually STOP and SLOW down. I read. I indulged in wondering around galleries and shops without needing to rush. I watched TV in bed. I visited places on my hit list. I slept. I moved. I journaled. I just tried to be.

I came home 30 hours later nourished and better connected to myself.

As mothers if we don’t look after ourselves and prioritise what we need how can we be expected to give our best to our kids?

If you struggle with the notion of doing something for yourself because of guilt, then reframe it to be something you do for your little ones.

You deserve it. They deserve it.

What would you do for yourself?

#rewritingthenarrative #rewritingmotherhood #rewritingparenthood #motherhoodintheraw #lookafteryou #timeoutfromparenting #motherneeds

Easter holidays are done. We survived.

But they got me thinking about quite how broken the system is for parents, especially mothers.

9-5 doesn’t work
Having it all doesn’t work
Finding balance doesn’t work

Because the systems in place mean something always needs to be sacrificed.

Time for yourself, with your kids, with your partner, with your friends…

It’s little wonder you feel like you’re just treading water. All the plates you’re spinning aren’t because you’re not good enough or because you’re not working hard enough.

I bet you give everything your all and it still doesn’t feel like enough.

That’s not you. That’s the system.

So how you make it work for you?

The most important thing is connecting to yourself. What do you actually need as an individual beyond being a mother or employee? And then what does that mean for unlocking joy in the juggle - because that juggle isn’t going anywhere.

It is possible to feel like you are in control and that you have time for yourself. It just takes a bit of work.

So the big question is, are you willing to do that work?

#rewritingthenarrative #rewritingmotherhood #rewritingparenthood #motherhooddilemmas #joyinthejuggle #mindsetshif #mothermind

We love to put a label on mothers.

Yes, it helps us find our motherhood tribe but also, it can be seriously problematic.

Comparison
Judgement
Questioning

As a mother you deserve to create your own path to follow. A path that reflects who you truly are and what you truly want for your life.

Imagine: motherhood on YOUR terms

Sounds good right?

#rewritingparenthood #rewritingmotherhood #parenthoodrewrite #motherhoodreality #parenthoodcoaching #mothercoach

Motherhood, for too long has been framed as an experience that closes doors for women.

Careers slowed
Bodies changed
Relationships lost
Needs deprioritised

Enough.

It doesn’t have to be like this. But it takes work and an open heart and mind to the idea of letting go.

Letting go of the past.
Stop holding on to things that have been.
Saying goodbye to parts of who you used to be.

Doing this opens doors to so many exciting experiences and opportunities. Imagine…

A job that works for you and your dreams
A body you feel genuinely good in
A relationships where your needs are always met
A life on your terms

All of this is within your grasp and with a little help it can all become your reality.

DM for more information and let’s start open some doors!

#rewritingmotherhood #rewritingparenthood #theparenthoodrewrite #owningmotherhood #motherhoodonyourterms

We’re sold these stories about the motherhood bounce back…

Your body will bounce back
You’ll get back to the things you want
You can have it all

Then you throw in the mix how many mothers resist the mundane, monotonous time that comes with having kids. It means they crave their old selves, their old lives.

The thing is things won’t go back to the way before. Your time is different. Your body is different. But more significantly, your mindset will be different.

You will have new values, priorities, outlooks and may not even know it.

Stop fighting it and start stepping into it.

#rewritingparenthood #rewritingmotherhood #parenthoodrewrite #mothermindset #parenthoodjourney #mumscoach

There are so many existing views of how motherhood should be done - and these come from people who aren’t you!

There has been such a push to independence as women in life, work and parenting but it’s damaging mothers.

It’s driving individualism, comparison and perfectionism as we constantly strive to ‘get it right’.

Let’s stop this.
Let’s start truly thinking about the village we need.
Let’s ask for help, with no shame or fear.

We weren’t meant to do it alone, so why not stop trying to.

#rewritingparenthood #rewritingmotherhood #parenthoodrewrite #motherhoodsimplified #motherscoach

I say it a lot, but comparison is the thief of joy.

Don’t let it steal from you and your motherhood experience.

Here are three simple things you can do that can shift you out of the comparison traps.

1. Think about who you follow on social media. If any accounts make you questioning yourself or your parenting or your kids, stop following. Find the accounts that fill your feed with joy.

2. Know YOUR values. Not anyone else’s. These need to be yours. They will have likely changed since having children, so you’ll need to spend a bit of time unpicking it all. But once you have they will ground you in an amazing way.

3. Celebrate your parenting wins everyday, even if small. You will have done something great, I am sure of it. Too often we don’t take a minute to recognise the hard work that goes on daily and how brilliantly we are doing.

You are on your own motherhood journey, and it is a brilliant one.

#rewritingparenthood #rewritingmotherhood #parenthoodrewrite #motherhoodlens #comparisonisthethiefofjoy

What if I told you that motherhood could be the freedom you needed to truly be yourself. Your whole self.

Motherhood too often makes women smaller or less.

Less earning potential
Less time
Less headspace
Less freedom

But that’s just NOT true.

If you put in the hard work and find a way to be consistent in your mindset, your movement and your relationship with your self you can find true freedom.

Freedom from comparison
Freedom to communicate your boundaries and needs
Freedom to unlock true joy in the juggle
Freedom to feel good in your body
Freedom to make work work for you

How do I know? Because it’s the journey I’ve been on.

I have so much more emotional freedom now than ever before. I care so much less. I respect myself so much more. Never in a million years would I have posted a photo of myself in swim stuff online. But who actually cares?

It’s not easy
There is no magic wand to be waved
But there are methods, tools and ways to get there
With me by your side it’s possible

#emotionalfreedom #rewritemotherhood #rewriteparenthood #motherhoodmindset #mindsetshift #celebrateyou #freedominmotherhood

Advocating for yourself in motherhood.

So many mothers feel uncomfortable doing it.

Why?
Because we’ve been told we can have it all, which implies we can do it all.

We martyr ourselves.
We spin so many plates at once.
We don’t ask for help.
We struggle to prioritise our needs.

Do you ever feel like you could do with a break, that motherhood is monotonous, that you are watching the clock?

Then there is a good chance you’re not advocated for your needs.

The hard reality is, in motherhood you need to do this for yourself. If you don’t burnout creeps up, anger and resentment builds and it is harder to connect with yourself.

You need to know what you actually want and need
You need to know what will actually help you
You need to know how to communicate that effectively
You need to know that you deserve things for yourself

If you don’t even know where to begin with these questions, that’s okay! I didn’t. It took time and work but I got there and you can too.

Imagine being able to open up a world of possibilities, where you feel more calm, find joy in the juggle and have some time for yourself.

It’s all possible…

#rewritingparenthood #rewritingmotherhood #parenthoodrewrite #motherscoach #advocateforyourself #advocatelikeamother

Motherhood guilt, we’ve all felt it right?

It feels like something which is now so deeply ingrained in the motherhood experience it’s expected.

But it doesn’t have to be!

Motherhood guilt comes from places beyond you. Societal narratives of what motherhood should look like. The labels that just seem to be forced upon us as mums. The pressure to parent in a particular way. The simple saying ‘you can have it all’.

Layer in the fact many women still do the lions share when it comes to kids (even when lots of partners are stepping up) it’s little wonder eyes are firmly on them in their mothering role.

But take note - these are all things beyond your control. The narratives others create. The view other people have.

So, ask yourself what can I control?

Your response to the external expectations and pressures. You may not like to hear it but you are responsible for that and have the power within you to step back, breath deep and tell yourself you are doing a brilliant job.

Because you are 💕

#rewritingparenthood #rewritingmotherhood #theparenthoodrewrite #coachformums #motherhoodunderstood #changethenarrative

It’s always wonderful to celebrate Mother’s Day, especially when the journey has been challenging, long and emotional (name me a mother who hasn’t experienced these emotions in their own way?!)

I loved yesterday and spending quality time with my unit. Being handed the homemade cards. Hearing about why my 4 year old loves me.

However, motherhood is more than a day. And celebrating it shouldn’t be confined for a single day.

So here’s to all you mothers - whatever that looks like.
Everyday.
Always.

💕

#mothersday #rewritingparenthood #rewritingmotherhood #motherscoach

This is still a work in progress but I know that to be the best parent, partner and in order to best look after myself I need to let go for the thing I’m really good at - striving for perfection.

It’s what I know. I’ve spent most of my life fighting the feeling that I may fall short. Being hyper defensive when criticised, falling into a “it’s all my fault” narrative, listening to that voice in my head that says I shouldn’t prioritise myself.

In parenthood our inner voices that have been there for a long time are the ones we hear the most. They shout the loudest. But they also make it so much harder for ourselves as they pile on pressure and unattainable standards.

Letting go of what we know, what makes us comfortable, the easy route - that’s the hard bit - but it is worth it in the long run.

Interested in understanding how you can reset those voices in your head so you can be your best self in parenthood? DM to find out more.

Pregnancy and motherhood is surrounded with stories and myths that are deep rooted but not actually our own.

I went into motherhood first time round with this idea that I would glow throughout pregnancy, having a baby would be tiring but it would also be full of coffees with friends, finding new body confidence as I ‘bounced’ back and that I would instinctively know what to do, because it was hard wired into my biology.

These were the stories I heard.

You’ll love it
It’s the best thing that will happen to you
You will have a whole new appreciation for things

This is all true… NOW, four years later. It’s taken time to get there because I didn’t know how seismic the changes would be.

I also struggled to enjoy it because I spent so much time fighting the reality as I desperately grasped at trying to adhere to the stories I’d heard and motherhood myths.

Pregnancy and motherhood are amazing and wonderful things. But that does not equate to being easy or enjoyable.

It’s okay to find it hard. There are plenty of ups but there are also a lot of downs.

🎢 It is a rollercoaster, and it’s okay to need some help you embrace the ride.

#rewritingparenthood #rewritingmotherhood #motherhoodmyths #motherscoach #parentscoach #motherhoodunplugged #postpartumrealtalk #rollercoasterofemotions

If you dug deep into this question what would the answer be?

I reckon it’d surprise you.

Too often as mothers we force ourselves to do more. To find extra work for ourselves and make everything a certain way because we feel we ‘should’.

But in reality aren’t we just trying to meet someone else’s expectations?

Isn’t it just another form of comparison?

The added pressure we put on ourselves as mums often isn’t driven by what we truly want. Yes, we want the best for the kids. But does that mean we always need a tidy house? Or for everything to be homemade?

The answer to the question is probably not for yourself, or even for your little ones.

The answer is…
… some person you compare yourself to on Instagram
… your own mum / mother in law
… a friend who’s set up is entirely different to yours
… a standard that’s seeped into your conscious from popular culture

Countless other places other than YOU!

Doing things for others can be lovely but not if it doesn’t give to you.

Maybe take a few moments to reflect on your load and how much is for you, your little ones and then for others?

#mentalload #motherhooduncensored #rewritingmotherhood #rewritingparenthood #motherscoach #thejugglestruggle

This is especially true in Motherhood.

Yet we’ve created a world where comparison is everywhere. Social media. Popular culture stories that are full of judgement. Whole industries dedicated to postpartum ‘bounce back’ or sleep training.

I remember in the dark days of sleep deprivation with my first I would spend hours scrolling and looking at people who claimed their baby slept with some military style routine.

When the NCT mums complained about the 4 month sleep regression hitting, I sobbed. I wasn’t sure there was anywhere to regress to.

I compared my body to other mums, wondering how someone could wear a bikini 4 months postpartum.

I wondered how some mothers I knew managed to seemingly get so much time to themselves.

And then I realised…

🍎 I am my own person. You can’t compare apples to pears.
👶 Just as I am my own person, so are my kids so why compare them.
🧭 Motherhood is a journey and I need to discover the journey I want to go on - how I want to parent, how I want to show up
🥤What I need to fill my cup is different to someone else so there’s no point in focusing on what someone else is doing

It is a hard shift to make.
But it truly creates emotional freedom.

Are you ready to stop comparing?
To connect with what brings YOU joy in motherhood?
To write your own motherhood story?

📩 drop me a DM and together we can pick up the pen and start writing.

#motherhoodunfiltered #comparisonisthethiefofjoy #comparisoninmotherhood #rewritingmotherhood #rewritingparenthood #motherscoach

There are so many problematic narratives surrounding motherhood but this is a biggie…

The notion we should enjoy every moment and be grateful that we are getting to do it.

I am beyond grateful for my kids and being a mother. But do I enjoy it all?

NO

It can be relentless, thankless and frankly boring at times.

It’s okay to say it and to feel those things.

It doesn’t mean you’re not eternally grateful or that you would change anything.

Fighting the feelings or feeling guilty because of them isn’t serving you. It’ll create a fear - a fear of sharing what you really feel and in turn, pursuing what you really need.

It’s okay to not love it all. To not find it easy.
It doesn’t make you less of a mother.
Owning it and recognising it just makes you human.

#mindsetcoach #motherhoodreality #motherhoodunfiltered #rewritingparenthood #rewritingmotherhood #motherscoach

YOU are all you need!

Women grow up with a narrative that creates a sense of not being enough, and this is particularly true when it comes to motherhood.

“You should love every moment”
“Have you lost the baby weight yet?”
“When will you go back to work?”
“Are they a good baby?”

This creates the feeling that we should be doing more.

The reality is that you ARE ENOUGH.

Buried under the fear of not getting it right and sitting beneath the sense that if only you did something better is someone who knows.

Knows how to be a brilliant mother
Knows what they need to fill up their cup
Knows what their little one/s need
Knows their values and what they want from life

It is scary figuring it all out especially when all you want is to do the best by your kids. You are the best but trusting yourself can be hard.

That’s why so often we end up feeling like we’re stuck or running in circles.

Trust me when I say you have all the answers you need to be your best self and the best mother you can be.

Sometimes you just need a helping hand 💕

#coachingforwomen #coachingformothers #postpartumcoach #mindset #mindsetshift #motheringhard #rewriteparenthood #rewritemotherhood

We often hear this…

If only you had more balance in your life, more time, more ability to split yourself between home and work.

The thing is that’s not how life works.

Things will constantly come at you that you don’t expect especially when kids are involved.

Don’t strive for a balance in life. Instead, you need to know what you need. What fills your cup up and work to get the right boundaries in place to ensure you can get it.

A long hot bath
A walk in nature
A large glass of wine with a friend
A coffee in silence

It doesn’t have to be big but it needs to nourish you.

Finding ways to get more of that in your life with clear boundaries around your time and what you say yes to is what makes a difference.

Otherwise you are at risk of staying stuck wishing for something that’s not coming.

#worklifebalance #boundariesnotbalance #motherhood #motherhoodunplugged

Sometimes you just have one of those days.

2.5 hours later and still waiting on the RAC
Yes, I was flustered
Yes, I needed more than a minute
Yes, I really could do without this

But I am in charge of how I respond to curveballs when they are thrown my way. So, a few minutes of breathing, of sitting with the sun on my face, a call to my husband to make a plan and I was calm(er) and able to sit with the situation.

Life will always throw these kind of things at you. You can’t control that. You can control what you do when they come your way.

Parenting is much the same.

It is still very much a work in progress for me but I am learning that riding the wave will get you further than trying to swim against the current.

How do you bring yourself back when life throws you a curveball?

#mindset #perspective #controloverreactions #responsibleforself #curveballs #whatsinyourcontrol

One of the biggest challenges women face after becoming a parent is this idea that they need to go back to who they were before - to what was ‘normal’.

That doesn’t work on two levels

1️⃣ things aren’t the same so you can’t expect them to return to what they were

2️⃣ telling yourself that they will return to normal is actually picking the easiest path but it’s a path that doesn’t take you anywhere

Don’t look to get back to who you were before. Instead, try and embrace the new parts of you that are emerging. Hold space for them while also holding space for who you were.

It’s not always easy.
But it is so worth it.

#motherhood #mumlife #postpartum #motherhoodrising #postpartumjourney

It is positive to read the news that under the workers' rights reforms, mothers and partners will be given the right to two weeks of bereavement leave if they have suffered a pregnancy loss before 24 weeks' gestation.

I've experienced a silent miscarriage at 12 weeks and at the time it broke me. I was lucky to be given two weeks off and that time was so needed.

To have the heart breaking surgery
To allow my body time to adjust
To sob freely whenever I needed to
To start to heal my broken heart

It is good to see this change coming in. For too long, families have suffered loss and had to work through it and act as if nothing seismic has just happened to them.

Link in comments to read the article.

#pregnancyloss #workersrights #babylossawareness

We have a culture that just loves to focus on the bounce back after having kids.

The pre-pregnancy jeans hype
The simplification that breastfeeding = weight loss
Montages of women who are shredded 6 months later

Everyone’s journey is different with their bodies after having kids. There is no way to ‘bounce back’ and creating a narrative where it’s expected of women just adds a whole another layer of pressure and expectation on them at a time when they’re having to learn so many new things about themselves and their babies.

I’m 2 years PP and clothes don’t fit the same. My shape is different. My waist is wider, my boobs are a lot less pert and my mum tum is still very much there.

I imagined myself working out while my little one slept. Eating bowls of green salads and watching the weight drop as I exclusively breast fed. None of that happened. The first year I was sustained by multiple packets of biscuits, very sporadic bursts of movement and not a lot of sleep.

Our bodies have done something incredible and something powerful. Enjoy them for that, not the sizes they used to be.

And more importantly, consider what you actually need. Is it to be a smaller dress size? Or to feel more connected to your body and more confident?

#bouncebackculture #postpartumbounceback #motherhoodlens #postpartumbody #mumtum

In case you needed to hear this at the start of the new week...

Parenthood is full of emotions and they often contradict each other.

We often have a whole range of expectations of what we should be doing in parenthood - how we should be raising our children, what our working life looks like, how our bodies are meant to bounce back etc - and this means emotions can end up a big old jumble.

Complicated feelings is one of the tricky things that comes with becoming a parent. It is unexpected and can be difficult to know how to navigate.

The most important thing is know it is absolutely okay to feel a host of different things and it is no reflection on what you are or are not doing.

#parenthood #motherhood #motherhoodunfiltered #mumlifebelike #postpartumemotions #mixedemotions

After the birth of my first child I struggled with post partum illness. A large part was thanks to it being lockdown but a large part was also that I felt lost.

I didn’t know who I was anymore. I faded away. I didn’t want to just be a mum but I also wanted to give everything I had to my little one. It was confusing.

I struggled with meeting ridiculous expectations I had for what motherhood should look like. A baby that actually slept. Looking presentable. Wanting to go back to work and “have it all.”

I struggled with a whole host of new emotions:
—> guilt, so much guilt all the time
—> constant comparison to others (especially online)
—> fear of being seen as needing help
—> lots of apologising for things I didn’t need to
—> deep deep body shame

Then I realised I wasn’t living my own version of motherhood.

By osmosis I had absorbed someone else’s - from what I’d grown up with, the 90s era of Girl Power, who I’d watched on socials, what I’d seen in popular culture…

In order to stop the negative self-talk, the endless guilt and the deep sense of being lost I had to start writing my own version.

With that came an unlocking:
—> asking for what I need and making sure I get it
—> knowing balance isn’t possible but boundaries are
—> learning to take joy in the everyday and mundane
—> gratitude for what I have and where I’m going
—> respect for my body and what it is has given me

And this can all be the same for you!

✨ It’s easy to get lost in motherhood but it is the start of an amazing and brilliant story that has endless possibilities. You might just need some help seeing them.

✍️ Together we can start to write your next chapter. One where you can be confident, find fulfilment and step into the main character energy you deserve.

#nextchapter #yournarrative #motherhoodjourney #motherhoodunplugged #youafterkids #youinmotherhood #mothersjourney

Do you find yourself constantly apologising when you don’t have a reason to?

Are you quick to apologise for your children and things they’re doing that really are beyond your control?

🛑 STOP
All you’re doing is self-sabotaging.

You’re telling yourself that you need to take up less space, that you are in the wrong, that you haven’t gotten it right, that you should be parenting better…

That is a load of pressure you don’t need and frankly, don’t deserve.

It’s small but can have a big impact on how you view yourself and plays a big part in these horrible spaces we often fall into…

➡️ comparison traps
➡️ fear of making others uncomfortable
➡️ desire for more balance in life

Next time you feel the words “I’m sorry” slipping out of your mouth try and stop and ask yourself whether you really need to apologise?

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Hi, I’m Emily. I help women write their next chapter after having kids so they can live a life with emotional freedom without comparison and guilt. I’m here to help you connect to yourself both emotionally and physically and find a life full of joy. Follow along if you’re a mum and don’t know who you are or where you’re going. Together we can discover real magic ✨

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#motherhoodunplugged #stopsayingsorry #habitchanges #motherhoodcoach #yourstory #yournarrarive #noguilt #nopressure

You can only do what you can do.

Life is messy and sickness is one of those things that makes it so.

I’m currently tackling two poorly ones as we’ve finally been hit with chickenpox.

Initially I was hit with a wave of panic as I considered all the ways I was impacted…

👉 Frantic emails to rearrange calls and meetings
👉 Time for yourself fading into the background
👉 Evenings squeezed as you try to make up for missed work
👉 Broken nights as you give out countless cuddles and all the calpol
👉 Hoping it all passes quickly so you can start catching up on the lost time

And then I had a word with myself. There is only so much I can do, and I need to check in with where my energy is most required. Right now that’s with the kids. Everything else can wait. I don’t want to exhaust myself and run myself into the ground trying to do it all. So instead I’ll focus on doing what I can to the best of my abilities.

It’s okay to give yourself permission to say no, set boundaries around work especially when you’ve got to tackle sick bugs and sleepless nights.

Here’s to leaning into the cuddles and knowing you’ll get to everything else when you actually can.

#motherhood #parentingdilemmas #motheringhard #parenthoodunplugged #motherhoodunderstood #prioritiesmatter #boundariesarehealthy

❔Want to know what working with me is like?

Here are some of the key questions we’ll explore together…

1. The motherhood narrative you’re subscribing to
2. What is needed to free you from this
3. How does shape the motherhood narrative you actually want to follow to
4. And how do I ensure I can actually follow it

The focus is very much on unpicking the narratives we live by that aren’t actually ours. (And I think we can all agree that when it comes to motherhood there are a tonne of narratives that can make it all feel so much harder and heavier.)

Working with me is about creating time and space for YOU to figure out what story you want to write for yourself.

Crucially, you won’t leave with just an understanding but a clear action plan of how to get there, tips and tricks so you feel confident writing and someone who is there cheering you on every step of the way.

Admitting you need some help or that you don’t quite know what’s going on but that things feel a bit heavy is hard, I’m here to make it all feel easier.

Sound good?

💌 DM me for more info and we can start the journey to writing your next narrative

#motherhoodunplugged #motherhoodmindset #whatsyourstory #putyourselffirst #motherhoodcoach #returntoworkmums

💥 Own the awkward

So often with the mothers I work with there is a real sense that they are not putting their needs first at home and at work because it just makes them uncomfortable.

They don’t like…
… Asking for help
… Putting boundaries in place
… Making anyone else feel uncomfortable
… Going against what’s expected / the norm
… Admitting they can’t do it all themselves

A big chunk of the work I do is about helping you own the awkward and get comfortable with communicating your needs both personally and professionally.

You will know what it is you need but having the skills and mindset to make that happen is hard.

That’s why coaching is worth the investment. I am there by your side to be your cheerleader, champion and challenger - giving you the push and confidence you need to get what you want and need out of life and work.

#clienttestimonial #mindsetcoachingforwomen #motherhoodcoach #owntheawkward #boundaries #communication #yourneedsfirst

✒️ What if you flipped the script?

Women especially mothers feel so much pressure from narratives that aren’t theirs. Societal expectations of what you should be like as a mother. Comparison to others and how they parent.

It’s a heavy load to carry and it means you often end up putting unnecessary pressure on yourself and having unrealistic expectations of what you can actually do.

So what if you flipped those standards and broke them down so they actually relflected you and your needs?

No one is perfect.
No one can do it all.
So why should you?

#flipthescript #motherhoodjourney #findingyournarrative #yournarrative #perspectiveshift #mumlife

Just putting this out there.

Giving yourself permission to have a break can feel tough. If you struggle to take one, ask yourself why that is?

There’s a good chance you feel like there is always something to do. Washing to be folded, plans to be made, shopping to be done, emails to be replied to.

Often this need to do is driven by expectations we put on ourselves which are shaped by external narratives.

This creates unnecessary pressure.

You are doing enough
You are enough

So take a few moments to yourself and enjoy it.

#takeabreak #selfcare #perfectionism #highstandards #momentofcalm #deservingofrest #youareenough

Little gentle reminder as we get to half way through half term…

It’s okay to feel like you’re living in chaos
It’s okay to let some things slide
It’s okay to pick the easy route
It’s okay to not be at your most presentable

You’re juggling a lot.

Life was designed with a 9-5 in mind when women were at home and that was their responsibility. That isn’t the case anymore but our systems haven’t caught up or shifted to reflect it.

So managing school holidays plus work plus the house plus self care plus everything else life throws our ways is hard.

Don’t make it harder by expecting a certain standard from yourself.

Be kind. Don’t sweat the small stuff. Try and enjoy the time with the kids.

I bet you’re doing brilliantly.

#halfterm #schoolholidays #thejuggle #workingparent #workandkids #bekindtoyourself

I'm not usually one for trends but this is one that I wanted to get onboard with. It's a chance to sit with the version of you who was still figuring it all out.

You can tell them truths they don't know they need to hear and help them understand it will be okay even when the future feels big and scary.

Honestly, me ten years ago would have laughed in your face if you'd told me that motherhood - even with a global pandemic and post partum illness - was the making of me.

That it would give me a purpose and a real clarity over what my priorities and values are.

That it would change the dial on how I see myself and what I want to do professionally.

That it brings me a new level of confidence, one that means I know I'm not perfect, never will be and that I am just doing my best.

That I am a 'scrunchie' mum and proud.

It's funny what can happen in ten years. Here's to the next ten and the adventures that await.

If you haven't already, give it a go. You'll be amazed at what you tell yourself.

#tenyearchallenge #motherhood #motherhoodrising #oldmenewme #changeinlife

How do you find the time?

I get asked this often when I fit in exercise during the workday.

Yes, I’m fortunate to have a flexible work schedule, which gives me more freedom.

But it isn’t always easy making it happen...

💬 It’s not easy asking for help when I find it really hard.
👨‍👩‍👧‍👦 It’s not easy when solo parenting and it feels like the hardest option.
💕 It’s not easy putting yourself first when you feel like your attention and time is needed everywhere else.

Yet it remains a non-negotiable negotiable.

Even when I worked a traditional 9-5, I still found ways to make it work, even when it wasn’t easy.

This isn’t a brag; it’s a lesson I’ve learned over time: I don’t trust my negative thoughts until I’ve gotten out of my head and into my body and we all deserve to put ourselves first even for an hour.

It may sound bold, but I tell my clients to treat movement like therapy. You wouldn’t hesitate to schedule a recurring hour for therapy, so why not do the same for exercise?

So, I encourage you to give yourself permission to block out an hour a week for some movement and more importantly, an hour where you put yourself first. If you don't - no one else will.

What’s your non-negotiable for calming a busy brain? How do you make it happen, even when the load feels heavy?

#MovementIsMedicine #MentalHealthMatters #SelfCare #MeTime #PrioritizeYourself #NonNegotiable #LookingAfterMe

The wellness industry loves a quick fix.

I’m sure we’ve all seen content of people basically unwrapping their faces in the morning so they have a snatched jawline. Green juices, mushroom powders, you name it. It’s a multibillion dollar industry and it sells you a good story.

I won’t lie. I love my vitamins butI also believe quick fixes won’t help you in the long run. There is no single supplement, hack, or morning ritual that will replace having an understanding of what is driving your need for those quick fixes.

When you buy into quick fixes you are subscribing yourself to a ‘when I…’ narrative.

When I sleep more I’ll be…
When I am smaller I’ll be…
When my skin is clear I’ll be…
When I’m more productive I’ll be…

We need to learn to engage with where we are NOW and build out from that with sustainable and consistent habits.

🏃‍♀️ regular movement
💧 plenty of water
🌿 fresh air and nature
🍜 nourishing food
🙏 gratitude
💕 understanding what it is you actually want for yourself - not what you think you should want

They’re not complicated things but getting there can feel exactly that - complicated.

That’s why I work with women to help them untangle the narratives in their heads and figure out what it is they exactly want for themselves and how to get there.

✨ It really can feel like magic

#WellnessJourney #SustainableHabits #NoQuickFixes #MindfulLiving #WellnessIndustry #GratitudePractice #FindYourPath #HealthyMindset #EmpoweredWomen #WellnessWithoutTheHype #LiveAuthentically

Saves from the week before I go offline for family time.

February has already been a ride. Holding dear what really counts and matters.

We’ve got this 💪

🚫 No more shoulds. No more what-ifs. 🚫

As women we are often pressured by unrealistic narratives that tell us how to be, what to want, and when to stay silent.

Don't you think it's time to break free and start writing your own version of womanhood? A version where you...

✨ Don’t have to compromise
✨ Don’t have to take up less space
✨ Don't have to silence yourself

If you find yourself struggling to move past the 'shoulds' and 'what ifs' then coaching may be just want you need.

❔ It's about discovering the answers. Finding and exploring those invisible, and often deeply ingrained narratives that we tell ourselves that stop us from being confident and clear on what we want to take for ourselves in life and work.

Imagine what writing your next chapter could feel like - on your terms and in your voice?

🔥 Let's make it happen

#FindYourNarrative #EnoughIsEnough #Empowerment #BreakTheShoulds

We’ve all heard it:
- “you should smile more”
- “you should have it all figured out by now”
- “you should be thinner, taller, prettier…”

These are stories society tells us about who we are supposed to be. From beauty standards to career expectations, these stories shape how we see ourselves.

🎧 But the truth is, these ‘shoulds’ are just noise.

The more we let them define us, the less room there is for us - the authentic us, with unique wants, needs and ambitions.

Let’s challenge the idea that we need to be perfect to be worthy.

And start writing our own stories and our own ‘shoulds’.

#ownyourstory #unlearnthenorm #realwomen #authenticliving #writeyourownstory

I am a self confessed people pleaser.

Many women are. We’ve grown up with narratives relating to servitude or ones that make us smaller than we are.

It’s something I am working on and find these five things help make it a little easier.

Number 3 particularly resonates - discomfort and awkwardness is something we’ve been conditioned to avoid but it’s so important to embrace.

What do you do to prevent people pleasing? Or are you stuck in the cycle of putting other people’s needs first?

#peoplepleaser #peoplepleasernomore #knowyourselfworth #settingboundaries

For a long time I wished I didn’t have freckles. That my skin was ‘blemish’ free.

Then I realised that the only reason I didn’t want them was because I grew up with a narrative that hid them.

Magazines of the 90s/00s didn’t show people with freckles. Anyone with them in popular culture covered them with make up - hello Lindsey Lohan!

And now there’s been a full circle moment. Now freckles are desired. There are make up tools so you can create them if you don’t have them.

Our notions of what we should look like and how we should be are often not ours. They are societies or someone else’s.

The work I do is all about shifting that. Helping you recognise the narrative you’ve been following and helping you write your own.

So here’s to being proud of my freckles and cherishing them as the sun kisses they are - what my mum used to call them and what I tell my kids they have too 💕

Pressure to love the motherhood journey just layers guilt on women.

“Embrace every moment”
“Isn’t it the most wonderful thing”
“You are so lucky”

It is absolutely okay to not enjoy every aspect of motherhood. No one does.

It is absolutely okay to find it full on and thankless.

It is absolutely okay to feel like you are treading water.

You can feel lucky but also find it hard. It is not one or the other.

#matrescence #mumlife #motherhoodjourney #postpartum #mummindset #itsokaytonotbeokay

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